Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ)

October 17, 2023
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1. What is a divorce coach?
ICF defines coaching as partnering with clients in a thought-provoking and creative process that inspires them to maximize their personal and professional potential. The process of coaching often unlocks previously untapped sources of imagination, productivity and leadership. (see

2. Why would someone go through divorce hire a divorce coach instead of a lawyer?

The two are not interchangeable. A divorce lawyer provides legal
advice. A coach is a thinking and process partner who supports and empowers you through the divorce process. I think of divorce coaching as a complement to the legal team.

3. Does the divorce coach step on the lawyer’s toes? Aren’t they answering the same questions?

No. The Divorce Coach should stay within her scope and collaborate with you on your personal change management and how to navigate your way through the divorce process and post-divorce recovery.

4. Is the Divorce Coach the same as a therapist?

No. There may be some intersection between the work performed by the therapist and the Divorce Coach. However, the Coach is future focused. The therapist works within a medical/therapeutic model. The CDC certified coach is trained to know when a referral should be made to a therapist. Therapists evaluate, assess and diagnose emotional and mental health issues. The Coach is focused on goal setting and personal change management. There may be some coaches who are trained therapists though I am not.

5. Who is your ideal coaching client?

Women who are navigating the deep waters of high conflict or complex divorces. I ensure the financial and legal team comprise the right advocates with the right strategies so you land on yout feet in control of your mind and money. I prefer working with clients who are committed and coachable and appreciative. For those who want to show up as their best selves, be accountable and serve as a role model to their children.

6. What is your preferred method of communication?

I offer Zoom conferences. For those who are local to the LA and Ventura
Counties in California, sessions can be booked in person by appointment. Every effort will be made to accommodate in person appointments though not every Divorce Coach can meet regularly at our locations.

7. Do you offer a free discovery session?

Yes. We offer a complimentary 15-20 minute initial consultation to see if
there is a good fit.

8. Do you offer coaching services to all genders?

Yes. We specialize in supporting and empowering women but are open
to serve all genders.

9. What is your preferred method of coaching?

I have been trained by CDC and the Transformation School. I have learned the ICF Core Competencies as well as Co-Active principles from my transformation program and solutions based coaching. My style is intuitive and I put on my “consulting hat” when it benefits the client.

10. Does Divorce Clarity Coaching LLC offer legal advice?

No. We are offering coaching services as a complement to your legal services.

11. Do you serve as a Divorce Coach if I am already working with a law firm?

Yes. We can take a meeting or call with you and your law firm.

12. Do solo family law practitioners or law firms have any reason to hire a
Divorce Coach?

Yes. You can offload some of the tasks you and your legal team don’t have time and energy for. This can set you apart from other law firms and allow you to work with a more credible client.

13. What are the types of solutions you offer as a Divorce Coach? 

A. Clients who are uncertain if they want to stay or leave the marriage

B. You or your spouse are filing divorce paperwork and you feel anxious and overwhelmed. You need to know your next steps and what options are available to get the divorce done.

C. Get support and guidance to assemble the right divorce team and manage the costs.

D. You are in the process of divorce and want to show up with more confidence and your own voice during negotiations or court hearings.

E. Don’t want to make the six biggest mistakes clients make in divorce.

F. Organize your binders or digital files to present to your divorce legal and financial team.

G. Develop a strategy to gather all of your evidence and data to provide to your divorce legal and financial team. 

H. Empowerment through this traumatic transition.

I. Ways to Shift Entrenched Positions.

J. Dealing with high conflict personalities.

K. How to overcome getting stuck in the need for “emotional justice”.

L. How to get unstuck.

M. Transformational life coaching. Live aligned with your values and be more fulfilled.

N. Divorce transition and recovery.


  • Lisa Zonder

    I have experienced far too much conflict handled the wrong way. My perspective is that the legal system is costly and adversarial. It is not the best or only forum for resolving family disputes. For children in a moderate to high conflict divorce, loyalty conflicts abound. It’s not ideal for anyone in the family unit. When I endured my own divorce with my ex spouse, I felt alone and the adversarial model inflamed the family conflict. Professionally, I’ve spent nearly 30 years in the “battlefields” of the divorce court. On a daily basis I guide my divorce clients through court, mediation and negotiation. The divorces are complex legally, financially, and emotionally.

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